I lieu of a minute by minute breakdown of my very first Mother's Day (very much like any other Sunday with the exception of the highlight of my day .. my husband was EXTREMELY agreeable and offered to go to the grocery store with me and did not whine like a 4-year old during the hour long trip), I have decided to talk a little about our nanny. B. has made it incredibly easy to be the great mother that my husband thinks that I am... and for those of you like me out there, you can't thank a nanny enough.
My husband is often amazed at the lengths to which I will go to keep B. happy. Not that she has indicated unhappiness in the short time that she has been with us. To the contrary she has indicated nothing but pleasure with her pay, work conditions, etc. I am just so terrifyingly worried that she will leave...
... with no notice! And I would be fucked.
So, I buy her groceries so that she will have things that she likes to eat when she is stuck at our house. I have given her several (expensive) articles of clothing from my closet. (let's be frank... they are not my fat pants and I doubt that I am ever going to fit into them again. They were going to be given away anyway... I just didn't tell her that.) I even offered to give her my cell phone...
M. says that I am trying to buy her love. And given the fact that she lives with her parents, she probably does better than we do in terms of disposable income, so she can buy her own cookies. And I am sure that he is right.
But everyday I choose to go to work, I must leave the butterbean behind in her care... I trust her. She does a fantastic job with him, he obviously likes her a great deal. She also puts up with three fur babies who also demand her attention. She is incredibly undserstanding when I am (frequently) late coming home. I clearly do not deserve this.
I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO FIND ANOTHER NANNY. Anyone who has been through the situation knows how mind-numbingly difficult it is -- the references, the networking, the interviews, UGH.
So, if I have to splurge on Chips Ahoy cookies (no off-brand for MY nanny) to keep her in our employ than that is what I have to do. I am willing to make that sacrifice.
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